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Isaiah 40:31 - But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

     

 

 

 

 

 

"WHY HOPE DEFERRED MAKES THE HEART SICK"
- MY REFLECTIONS ON REJECTION -

I have a right to expect that the two people who chose to give me life would accept me, love me, nurture me, understand me and be proud of me for who I am.

I have a right to expect my siblings to support me in my endeavors, comfort me when I fail, cheer for me when I succeed, and always hope the best for me.

I have a right to expect that when someone promises to love, honor, cherish, protect and be faithful to me unto death that they will remember and honor their promise.

I have a right to expect that my children will realize they came without an instruction book, understand that I am merely a by-product of my own flawed upbringing, forgive my blunders and believe that with every breath I draw, I thank God for the privilege of being a part of their lives.

I have a right to expect that when someone says they love me, they really mean it and are not just trying to manipulate me into boosting their own sagging ego.

I have a right to expect that someone I rely on for comfort and encouragement will not die and leave me all alone, no matter how unreal that expectation might be.

I have a right to expect that in my job I will be appreciated, complimented, rewarded and remunerated for my loyalty, faithfulness, efficiency and willingness to serve. 

I have a right to expect that my friends, coworkers and brothers and sisters in Christ will respect my endeavors to better myself as a person and not criticize me, put me down or ridicule me behind my back.

I have a right to expect that I will be accepted by others for the beauty that I carry within, and not ridiculed, humiliated, slighted, rejected or passed over because of my outward appearance, social stature or economic station in life.
    In reality, these things are much more than rights. They are basic necessities for the formation of the human soul. The loss of these necessities has left my soul warped and twisted to the extent that I cannot even cry out to God for help, for I fear His rejection most of all. And who is to blame for my loss? I see before me a kaleidoscope of human faces, each of whom I have held accountable. Many times, I have shaken my fist in the face of God, delusionally holding Him responsible for my pain. In reality, though, my most precious rights were stolen from me in a "Grand Larceny" of the soul by an Unseen Enemy whose ultimate goal is to destroy me in every sense of the word: Satan. 

I know that ultimately I will go to my Heavenly Father and allow Him to heal me, but first I must see my real Enemy face to face and grieve for what I have lost. 

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Unfortunately, (to our finite way of thinking) grieving, just like recovery, is a process, not an event. Along the way, we acquire new information, grow, mature, and heal in some areas. It is therefore necessary that, at different intervals, we will find ourselves re-evaluating our losses and grieving them anew from a different perspective, based on the aforementioned changes. This is by no means an indication that we are not growing, changing or recovering, but rather a normal and necessary part of the recovery process. Many of our roots of rejection date back to early childhood experiences, and the depth of grief we experience over a perceived, life-long loss of love and acceptance would be much to painful and overwhelming to deal with all at once.

There is no magic formula or ritualistic prayer that will instantly remove our feelings of rejection. There are, however, steps that we can take to set our recovery into motion.

Ask the Holy Spirit to help us make an inventory of our rejection issues, dating back to our earliest childhood experiences.

Assume responsibility for our own wrong attitudes, actions and reactions and ask God's forgiveness.

Ask God to help us truly and sincerely forgive those by whom we have felt rejected or abandoned (especially God Himself).

"Be transformed by the renewing of our minds", i.e., seek God daily in prayer and through His Word so that we can at last realize the truth about who we are in Christ and what our value is in God's eyes.

As old issues resurface or new events happen, continue to apply these steps to our rejection issues.

And remember: "So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in Him, rooted and built up in Him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness". Colossians 2:6 May our Lord keep you always faithfully in His Grace.